Your business will only perform as well as you’re performing in your personal life.
What we’re saying is: “If you’re not happy in life, then your business won’t be happy”.
The things that aren’t working in your personal life actually weigh you down in your business life. And as the list grows, so does the weight. Eventually, you come crashing down with one huge thump: Burnout, Anger, Bitterness, Resentment, Feeling like a victim, Controlling, Being Forceful, Resisting and more all manifest from here.
You can try and sweep your issues under the carpet or pretend that they’re not there – but they stand out like a kangaroo in Japan and it doesn’t work in the long run.
The issues are holding you down from being your best.
It’s impacting your business and you could do something about it. Yes, it could go against the stigma of ‘Being a Man’ but hey… the world isn’t flat anymore and we’ve learned a lot about the impacts of being all macho…
And this isn’t just for males, a lot of ladies I work with don’t know how to deal with their personal issues as well.
How to Clean Up Your Personal Issues
The first step is to write down a list of things that aren’t working in your personal life. Have a think about negative things that keep popping up in your mind. Maybe it’s someone that owes you money. Or it could be your partner. Or maybe it’s a friendship that’s not going so well any more…
The second step is to ‘give up’ a point of view you have. It’s this point of view that disempowers you. e.g. You could ‘give up’ making that person wrong for what they did and consider that they were just doing the best they could do. Or you could give up that you’ve been a victim and consider that what happened was actually what happened and add no meaning to it (this may be very difficult for some things). Otherwise – you can get stuck in being a victim and you’ve got no access to power when you’re there.
The third step is to become responsible for it. Yes, this may be a big step and may seem impossible. Just try it on like a pair of new glasses. Everything is possible right? So, consider that you’re responsible for your whole life and EVERYTHING that happens within it. Step out of living in the ‘right and wrong world’. See everything as Perfect and then you gain POWER.
Remember the saying ‘Every cloud has a silver lining?’ – well, this is exactly what I’m talking about. The key is to find what you can take responsibility for and learn what YOU could have done to prevent it from happening. Becoming responsible also takes you away from feeling like a victim.
The fourth step is to look at each item on the list and find how you can be grateful for it. It may seem a little wierd to find gratefulness in negative things that have happened to you, but when you find it, this is when the magic starts to happen.
The past dissolves and is no longer an issue…
Your ‘way of being’ shifts and you attract more of what you want.
You evolve as a person and as a leader.
When I shifted the ‘Shit happens’ thoughts I had about being adopted and then my adoptive parents divorcing an amazing thing happened – the girl of my dreams walked into my life.
And yes, this had a huge impact on my business.